Monday, 1 April 2013

Letting go

“To live in this world

you must be able
to do three things
to love what is mortal;
to hold it

against your bones knowing
your own life depends on it;

and, when the time comes to let it go,
to let it go”

Mary Oliver


This poem is dedicated to my wonderful firstborn son, Tom, who was married on Saturday
to his beautiful, talented bride

Wishing them all the love and luck in the world!

13 comments:

  1. Giving them roots is the easy part - the wings are a little more difficult.
    Congratulations on your son's marriage and the growth of your family.

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    1. I could not agree more, Pondside. It has been an amazing and very emotional weekend. Hope to post some pictures soon, if they are happy for me to do so.

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  2. Best wishes to your son and his bride and to you too, Marianne - you've got it right.

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  3. Thank you so much, Molly. What a weekend!

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  4. What a handsome son you have and now you have a beautiful daughter-in-law also. Congratulations to the happy couple.

    I loved your poem, Marianne.

    Letting go is a gift we give them and to ourselves. Like a gift, it brings great joy knowing you have raised a child well and now they will continue the circle of life.

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    1. I think so and thank you for the congratulations.

      I love this poem and it is what is in my head at the moment. It is very poignant though and this is a very emotional time. I thought raising my boys was tough at the time but in many ways the letting go is harder, but necessary.

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  5. The poem expresses some wise, but poignant thoughts. A beautiful post, dear blog friend. Congratulations to the happy couple.

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    1. It just turned out to be what I wanted to say at the moment, Linda. Feelings are complex and joy is often tinged with sadness. Thank you for the kind words and the congratulations.

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  6. What a beautiful poem – so simple and so deep. I’m copying it and will let you know why. Congratulations to the happy couple.

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    1. It is beautiful, but sad too I think. Thanks for the kind wishes and I do wonder why you are copying it? For me it covers all manner of love and letting go - whether it is your children as they move on through life, your parents when they die or lovers who were once a part of your life.

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  7. Long may the happiness last and when the time for change comes, may passionate love turn into the kind of liking which lasts a lifetime.

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    1. They are very happy and I think have every hope of a long and happy marriage. I guess this is more about my struggles to let go, something I don't always find easy.

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  8. I only recently discovered Mary Oliver - she's American I think - and wrote some extraordinarily beautiful poetry. Some of her lines are stunning.

    Despite being a happy occasion, my son's wedding was also very tough for me; not only in the sense of letting go of my child as he makes his way through life now with his new wife and I take a step back, as is only right and the way of life, but also because, for the first time, I had to experience seeing for myself the life my family have with their father and his second wife, who was the other woman in my marriage. So, after the wedding, I had to come to terms with my own sadness and this poem expressed it for me.

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